Love, Musings, Truth

Love Over Dysfunction

So many people confuse dysfunction with love. But when you really break it down, it is quite simple. One robs from you, the other gives. One hurts, the other heals.

There is such a stark difference – it is not confusing at all. Love is always good, and love always heals. It is the opposite that hurts. Being cheated on hurts. Deception hurts. Lies hurt. Emotional abuse and mental manipulation hurts. Broken promises hurt. Lust hurts.

But love? No. Never. Love honors. Love protects. Love isn’t selfish. It doesn’t take and take, it always gives.┬áLove never robs you of your self respect and dignity. Love builds you up, not tears you down. Love keeps its word. Love is full of truth, not wrongdoing. Love casts out fear. Love is pure, and love is safe. Love heals.
Dysfunction and abuse tear you down. But love is what builds you back up again. Know the difference, and have enough courage to build your life around what is true and good.

// Love; it will not betray you
Dismay or enslave you, it will set you free
Be more like the man you were made to be.

Intimacy, Longing, Love, Musings

Of Freedom, Love and Pursuit

A person who feels safe is bound to show you their best. The heart that knows it is loved by present company will blossom beautifully. Because it feels safe, there will not arise any urgency to strive or prove anything. Instead there comes a great freedom to just be. I know this to be true for me – I am the bravest and the most free when I feel loved and safe. But I am so prone to hiding when my heart is wary and unsure. Isn’t it strange how the human heart works? Yet, far be it from us for the condition of our hearts to depend on the risings and fallings of men. It is a shaky road to walk on because even the best and most loving of men can cause hurt sometimes. Nobody is completely constant or safe all the time, even towards those they love. That is the err of human behavior – it comes inevitably as part and parcel of fallen nature. Should we then push everybody away? How then will we cultivate intimacy – the one thing we need most from one another?

Maybe there is an answer. I think, when one abides and is constantly enveloped by the warmth of Father’s arms, there results a great sigh of relief from within – a beautiful freedom to just be because one knows they are already completely accepted; yes, even in the company of those who are not yet safe for the heart. The one who walks in the presence of Divine Love walks in freedom, because their heart is covered by God – irregardless of present company. It is an amazing thing to be free – free to pursue intimacy, free to pursue love – even with imperfect man. (Of course, there is wisdom in knowing which relationships are meant to be pursued with nearness, and which are better off attended to at a distance; but that can be pondered upon another day.) When my heart is being pursued and protected, it is easier for me to pursue the hearts of those who are meant for me to love. I am not as scared of rejection and hurt if I already feel safe. Only when I am loved can I love well.

I want to love well. I want to be pursued, and I want to pursue, because if all of life comes down to love, I want to love well.

Love, Musings

Real Love

So many don’t know their worth. They accept “love” that isn’t love at all. Emotional blackmail. Emotional abuse. Physical abuse. Cheating. Lying. Being treated like an option. Being chucked aside. Being trampled on. Being used for sex and lustful gratification. They accept it all because they don’t know that they deserve better.

But the one who realizes their worth will not stand for any of that. The one who realizes that they deserve better will not accept a lesser “love”, but will dare to receive real love. Real love that honors, respects, protects, treasures, pursues, frees and heals.

We accept the love we think we deserve. Do you know your worth? Stop settling. You are worthy of real love.